If we love someone, not necessarily that we can have them in full. God gave us reason to make people think the good and bad for us, where the match and not with us. God also gave us the option to choose a spouse, but not necessarily that we can have them forever in our lives. So, use the right reason and thought they were not for us. But if God give us many options to choose in our life, we must choose a truly accept us and not looking at us from the outside but look at us from the heart. No one forbids us to fall in love with someone but we can't really love them because it will harm ourselves. So, rise from your lives. Accept the fact that better than our own hurt that we don't know how long can recover :)